If we want others around us to be positive and confident, then we have to create it within ourselves first. This means first focusing on yourself and your positive core and then creating a positive core among others. Building a strong core in yourself means that you can have the confidence you need to do anything.
The amazing thing is that we all have the resources to strengthen our core, some of us might just not know how. The key word here is REMEMBER. Yes remember your resources because everyone has resources in past experiences.
- Remember your strengths
- Remember Peak experiences
- Remember your successes
Now that you remembered your resources, Use them by remembering them again and again and Anchor them all, one on top of the other. You might choose to have a kinesthetic anchor like a simple gesture. (Have you ever noticed athletes in the Olympics doing a specific gesture before their games and when they win? This is their “Anchor”). Or you might choose a visual Anchor of a picture or a symbol. Whatever you choose to help you recall your excellent states, your resources, reminding you of all your Strengths, your Peak Experiences and your Successes.
Exercise and strengthen your Core, because mental states are just like physical states they need exercising!